“It’s soul-destroying for us, because I’ve had children go to secondary school and within five weeks they’re permanently excluded,” she says. “Or when they get to year 6, they end up in the SEND system. If their needs were being met in the mainstream at a primary, why can’t they be at secondary level?
“I do worry that with the consequential behaviour system, such as detention, we are setting them up to fail already.”
She says that teacher training should include much more on how to support SEND children, particularly on the subjects of sensory needs, anxiety and masking, and would like to see secondary schools adopt the ethos that it’s not the pupils who need to change, it’s the adults.
But most importantly, she says, schools should listen – both to pupils and to the families that know them best. This last point is a personal one for Marianne, who had to battle to find the right school setting for her youngest son, now 13.